Everything Exists in Relationship

Jeff CarreiraBlog Posts, New Paradigm Thinking5 Comments

Things do not exist unless they exist in relationship with something else. In fact, things do not exist at all. Relationships exist. There are no individual things. The existence of anything is always contingent upon something else. When I was an undergraduate student I studied physics, but my favorite course in four years was one called An Introduction to Metaphysics. It was one of only two philosophy courses that I had time to take, but I will never forget it.

The professor was a budgie elderly man one year from retirement. When he lectured he giggled to himself after almost every sentence and licked his glistening lower lip after about every third word. I had no background in philosophy, but the provocative questions and statements that this rather odd man inserted between giggles held my attention transfixed for an entire semester.

One of the things I learned was that absolute One and absolute Zero are both nothing. In the case of zero this seems obvious. If all you have is zero then certainly you have nothing. It is less obvious – but equally true – with one.  If there was truly only one then there is in fact nothing. Nothing can exist without a second.

You might stop me here and say, “If I had one refrigerator I would still have something!” But if you have a refrigerator then you are a second to that refrigerator. And if you didn’t exist the refrigerator would still exist in a world and it would be contingent on the existence of the world. The world would provide the second that the refrigerator’s existence could adhere to. If the world disappeared the refrigerator would still have to exist in space. If there were truly only one there would be only the refrigerator. All of reality would be encompassed by the limits of that refrigerator. The entire universe would be a refrigerator. But we can’t stop there because the refrigerator could also not be composed of any parts. Because any part of the refrigerator would be a second to the refrigerator. There also could be no ideas or feelings about the refrigerator because those would also be seconds to the original refrigerator. The refrigerator could not have a history or future because then it’s previous or future state would be a second to its current state.

For those of you who follow my blog you will see that we are coming right to Charles Sander’s Peirce’s conception of ‘Firstness.” Firstness is absolute oneness and it is in fact nothing at all – the pure potential prior to existence. Peirce’s conception of “Firstness” is a piece of pure genius and well worth the time it takes contemplating it in order to come to a deep understanding of what Peirce was getting at.

But let me get back to my main point. In order for anything to exist it has to exist in relationship to something else. This is an important part of the core character of American Pragmatism. We live in a world of relationships. As I said before, things do not exist except in relationship with other things. In fact, things do not exist at all. Relationships exist. You can read any of the Pragmatists from Charles Sanders Peirce to William James, from John Dewey to George Herbert Mead and you will find this same emphasis on the primary reality of relationship.

William James was making this point in his own way when he spoke of everything occurring as content in context. That is his way of describing the minimal relationship required for existence. You cannot have pure content. You must always have content and context – foreground and background. And James was astute enough to realize that in our experience of mind mental objects can flip from being content to being context and back again. The relationship between content and context is one way to imagine the minimal relationship required in reality – Peirce’s more abstract language of the relationship between ‘firsts’ and ‘seconds’ is another way.

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7 years ago

My philosophy professors always had us read a pro and a con for an idea, and similarly when we wrote papers. It was a difficult and useful exercise.

If you wish to do the same for the idea you presented here, I cannot recommend enough both After Finitude by Quentin Meillassoux and The Democracy of Objects by Levi Bryant, the second which is part of a new movement in philosophy called Object Oriented Ontology.

7 years ago

My own thoughts–if relationships only exist for there are no objects, then we also cannot have relationships, for relationships are always relating two or more objects. We must also posit objects in our ontology if we desire to include relationships between objects.

7 years ago

Thinking about the poverty I talked about in my last response: it only exists in a context of richness. I have always wondered about the relation HAVE and HAVE-NOTs, they are circular like Peirce says: he talkes about the habit of thought which identifies a man’s essential life, his humanity. Every conception is always related to other conceptions. All definitions are circular, father-son, above and below, greater and less; which can only be defined in terms of its correlate. They are circular because essentially correlated, they can be expressed only in terms of their mutual implications. The struggle agains apartheid… Read more »

Frank Luke
7 years ago

Hi Duff ! The exercise you mention of writing both a pos and neg view of ideas is certainly useful. It’s something I live by and automatically do that mentally. It’s rare that I don’t consider pros and cons of choices I must consider and ideas I encounter. :Yin/yang is ingrained in my thinking and find that little dot of the opposite in both halves of the symbol brilliant, signifying there’s a bit of the contrary in each component, if considered carefully.

Lyn Headley (@laheadle)

Dewey held that:

“In every event there is something obdurate, self-sufficient, wholly immediate, neither a relation nor an element in a relational whole, but terminal and exclusive.”

See Experience and Nature, Chapter on Ends.

Here is what Dewey would say to your opening paragraph:

Things do not exist unless they exist in relationship with something else.
— “I agree”

In fact, things do not exist at all.
— “I disagree”

Relationships exist.
— “I agree”

There are no individual things.
— “I disagree”

The existence of anything is always contingent upon something else.
— “I agree”